Children’s Internet addiction parents first reflect
This year, the country also introduced a network anti-addiction system to limit young people’s online game time, but soon cracking tricks spread online. It can be seen that Internet addiction is not a problem that can be solved by technology. More should beStart with psychological attention.
Data from the 2005 “Chinese Youth Internet Addiction Report” shows that the number of Internet addiction among teenagers has exceeded 10 million in the past. A survey of universities in Beijing shows that 80% of college dropouts are related to Internet addiction.% Are teenagers, and about 70% of these 87% are on the road to crime because of Internet addiction. Lack of freedom can easily lead to Internet addiction. Faced with teenage Internet addiction, the most distressing person is their parents. However,Many parents have no facts, and often they push their children step by step into the abyss of the Internet!
”Looking for a child, looking for a woman to become a phoenix” is the psychology of many parents in China. They want their children to “good grades, test high scores, enter good universities, find good jobs, and be good at them.”I hope to become a heavy burden for children: heavy learning tasks, extensive tuition training, rounds of rounds of examinations make children overwhelmed and lose the autonomy time they should have.
”Adolescents are in a special period of their lives. In this period, what children need most is free space. They can show their personality and get recognition.
“Shen Jiahong, a professor of child psychology at Guangzhou Baiyun Psychological Hospital, said,” Online games allow children to vent their dissatisfaction with their parents and enjoy the self-control pleasure; chatting online can release the child’s desire to talk.
In reality, children can’t get it, and it is often easy to find it on the Internet and get temporary comforts, so it is easy for children to get hooked on the Internet.
“Many parents are opposed to seeing their children go online, but they are only embarrassed. Forcibly banning children from going online is very likely to cause resentment among adolescent children and make them feel that they are not free and not understood by their parents.Easy to work against parents.
“Mr. Xu from Baiyun Psychological Hospital said.
Teacher Xu talked about a case like this: Xiao X, 16 years old, his father died when he was 4 years old, and his mother suffered from neurological paralysis when he was a child.
The family’s economy is not good. Later, after having a computer to go online, Xiao X played games, practiced upgrading, and then sold equipment to make money.
He said he wanted to make money for his mother and reduce the burden on his family.
But I am afraid that my mother knows that he spends a lot of time playing games to make money, so he dare not give it to his mother.
He has saved a few 2,000 yuan by playing games. He rarely asks his mother for money, which is used for daily expenses.
Mom is increasingly opposed to playing games online, and often blames him.
He thought his mother didn’t understand what he was thinking, and his temper became more and more irritable.
Every time he was blamed by his mother, he raised his fist, hit the wall desperately, hit the glass, and later started hitting his mother.
But he only hit his mother’s leg. He said that because her mother’s leg was paralyzed, she wouldn’t hurt without consciousness.
“Many of these children felt sad when we saw them. If parents can understand their children and communicate more, things will be easier to solve.
“Children’s Internet addiction is often due to the lack of self-confidence and understanding from parents, classmates, and teachers in real life. As a result, they lack self-confidence, turn to violence and give up, and look for self-confidence in the virtual world.
“Give care and respect to children who do not perform well, and help him rebuild his personal self-confidence; while network teenagers who perform well should develop their intelligence and attach importance to the cultivation of emotional intelligence. In short, let our children become physiologicalExcellent people.
“Said the teacher.
Children with Internet addiction, find the cause from their parents and smoking addiction, alcohol addiction, Internet addiction is difficult to quit again.
“To effectively prevent Internet addiction, proper home education is very important.
“Professor Shen said,” From the cases we took over, it was found that some teenagers with Internet addiction have a close relationship with their families.
A psychological counselor in a primary school said that when educating children, they should adopt a democratic and free way to establish “friend” relationships with their children, and “willing to” spend time with their children in heart-to-heart communication and communication.Be respectful of your child’s needs.
Let children know that there are still many people who can talk about their hearts in real life, without having to seek spiritual consolation on the Internet; at the same time, they should work with their children to formulate a regular Internet plan, including the time and purpose of the Internet.Wait.
“The child’s personal wishes must be respected when the plan is made, and the child can consciously abide by the rules when it is implemented.
“This counselor reminded.
”Some parents have deviations in the way they raise their children. Some focus only on the child’s material needs, and even use the material to meet any child’s material requirements, but they just ignore the child’s psychological needs; some manage their children well.Especially severe, only know how to exert pressure, in the long run, the child’s psychology is suppressed, it is very easy to go wrong.
“Professor Shen said.
17-year-old K is a typical example.
Little K’s mother is a postdoc, and his father is an entrepreneur. He is talented, and was admitted to Guangzhou No. 2 Middle School with excellent grades in the middle school entrance examination.
In 2005, he just entered the freshman year, because his father had an affair and his parents divorced.
After that, his grades dropped, he became obsessed with the Internet, and often bought books related to online games. He continued to study until midnight, and now his grades have fallen to the countdown of the whole class.
His parents are busy with work and rarely have time to accompany him, let alone communicate.
My parents were very opposed to him becoming more and more obsessed with the Internet. Every time they were blaming him. On one occasion, his father blamed him for two hours. He said that he was “annoying and really wanted to hack him”!
Such examples are rare. It allows us to see that a good relationship between husband and wife is the correct correction of family education, so that the child has a harmonious, peaceful, loving environment for growth, while maintaining a unified and suitable education for the personality of the childWays to prevent kids from internet addiction.
Self-confidence is the “number one killer” of Internet addiction. For the new problem of Internet addiction, there is no clear boundary in academia, and there is no uniform method for treatment.However, most opinions support the implementation of psychotherapy. “Except for some mental problems such as excessive worry and depression, drugs are only used. Generally, drugs are not used for treatment.
In addition, drugs only relieve psychological discomfort and cannot treat Internet addiction.
“Professor Shen believes that Internet addiction is not yet a disease, but just a behavioral problem, which requires psychological treatment and behavioral correction.
In the current treatment of Internet addiction, psychotherapy and military training are the main methods.
Military training therapy can enable children to develop good, regular lifestyle habits, change the long-term disobedience of the rules formed in the network, and also cultivate children’s independent spirit.
“Children should be independent. If they can be independent, they will have a sense of responsibility and accomplishment, and they will have self-confidence, which is very important for the prevention and treatment of Internet addiction.
“Professor Shen said.
”And psychotherapy focuses on building children’s self-confidence.
A senior psychological teacher at the Personalized Learning Center of Xueda Education believes that among the teenagers who have been addicted to the Internet, “5 robbed in Internet cafes were forced to jump off the building”, and “Internet theft people who steal” net numbers “were forced to jump off the building and died”. The constantly exposed cases have made young people’s Internet addiction quickly become a social issue that everyone is concerned about.
Not long ago, the country also introduced a network anti-addiction system to limit young people’s online game time, but soon cracking tricks spread online. It can be seen that Internet addiction is not a problem that can be solved by technology. MoreWe should start with psychological attention.
Data from the 2005 “Chinese Youth Internet Addiction Report” shows that the number of Internet addiction among teenagers has exceeded 10 million in the past. A survey of universities in Beijing shows that 80% of college dropouts are related to Internet addiction.% Are teenagers, and about 70% of these 87% are on the road to crime because of Internet addiction. Internet addiction is not a problem for a person or a family. It appears for a variety of social reasons.Internet addiction also requires the concerted efforts of the entire society. School teachers improve their understanding of the Internet, carry out online education for students, improve the quality of campus Internet sites and online monitoring, and enrich campus life can reduce the incidence of Internet addiction.
In addition, government departments should strengthen the management of commercial Internet cafes, strictly control the spread of unhealthy text, pictures, audiovisual information such as online pornography, crack down on illegal websites, and provide a good social environment for young people.
Only when families, schools and government departments cooperate with each other and take a multi-pronged approach can we effectively prevent youth Internet addiction.